"There are four major factors in achieving goals: (1) objective, the goal itself; (2) you, the person striving to attain the goal; (3)actions, the efforts made to attain the goal; (4) positioning, your situation upon achieving the goal. Of these four, you and your objective are the most important factors. For example, if your self-image and your objectives don't match, if you don't believe you are worthy of achieving your goals, you will not achieve them no matter what actions you take. When you believe you deserve to attain your goals, however, even minor actions yield great results."
So, believe. I feel like what I want to say to others, I actually want to say to myself. Yet I find it harder to believe in myself than to believe in others sometimes. I really need to get out more.
[later, around 5:30pm] I drove to a nearby BofA to deposit a check. But before that, I had to reassure myself that I can drive myself. It took a few minutes of standing and staring at the car in the garage, running back to my room thinking "I'll do it tomorrow," and then mustering up the courage to open the garage and turn on the engine. I imagined the route I would take, just to make sure I wouldn't get lost. But I took the right turn too early and got lost anyway. In the end, though, I made it to BofA and deposited my check. I'm glad I did this now, and I'm hoping to go further next time I drive myself somewhere. It's okay to get lost. It's okay to not follow the plan in mind exactly. Still, my cheeks and ears feel hot for some reason...
You'll become a more confident driver in no time! Think of it as building up tolerance (like alcohol/drug use) or training (badminton skills, weight lifting). Or you could just get a GPS. :]
ReplyDeleteYou can do it Mel! Practice makes perfect and it's better to be a little on edge than not, because then you are aware of the people driving around you. Once you sink into a complete comfort zone is when accidents happen, since people don't pay as much attention to the road. :)
ReplyDeletethanks for the encouragement! I drove further today~ but I haven't gone on the freeway by myself yet. Next time. :P
ReplyDeleteWoot, I can totally relate to you! Prior to starting my internship this week, I'd never gone on the freeway. Not at all, not even with my mom next to me. But because my internship is in Sunnyvale, I had no choice but to learn freeway recently. And it's not nearly as bad as I thought it'd be. Sure I still get qualms about changing lanes when there's a million cars speeding all around me, but after you do it a few times, you just get more used to it. And I've had two cars honk at me in the past two weeks, but that's just all a part of the practice too XD You'll be fine, you're hella athletic and apparently even driving is somewhat correlated with athleticism @_@ haha
ReplyDeleteoh wow, you drive to sunnyvale every day?! >,< I guess being forced to end up driving will finally make me work on my driving/parking/changing lanes skills... hopefully enough to prepare myself for driving in LA. T-T
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